How to Win the Game of New Year’s Resolutions!
January 9, 2010 by David Deane-Spread · 1 Comment
Why do we make NYR’s? If they are that important why do we wait until the New Year?
Are we simply conditioned by our culture to make and, yes, even break NYRs? Too often they slip, don’t they?
However, you’ve made your NYR, so… Oh… you made a number of NYRs this year!
You’ve probably dropped out on a couple of them already – and it’s only day 7!
OK, enough with the challenge – let’s win the game of NYR.
Successful players focus only on the most important realistic resolution that can be planned supported and achieved.
They line up all the ‘cards’ to ensure they have a royal flush!
Their success motivates them to repeat the process.
Success building on success.
So, firstly choose your most important realistic resolution – write it down.
Now list the cards – the various ways you are going to ensure you achieve your winning hand.
Remember, successful players ensure they have all the right cards – a fully integrated plan with a range of support mechanisms (‘cards’), not just one, such as: -
- hiring a coach to help you plan and work on it
- writing about it every morning, midday and evening in your journal
- creating a vision board as a desk top background
- enlisting the help of a trusted friend to keep you accountable
- celebrating small victories (time spent on track) – in a way that won’t lead you off your path
- reminding yourself every hour why the resolution is so important to you
- having a recovery plan that starts the moment you drop off track, as you might sometimes
- planning a powerful reinforcing reward on your success
If your NYR is overcoming an addiction you must enlist specialised help, otherwise you aren’t serious.
If your NYR is about changing an undesirable (non-addiction based) habit, ensure you have a worthy habit to replace it with, otherwise you’ll be pushing something soft and smelly uphill with a piece of string.
Regardless of what your NYR is, you must have a fully integrated realistic plan and enlist the right helper/s who will coach support and remind you and keep you accountable.
If you are not prepared to do that, then your NYR probably isn’t that important. You’d be better off making another choice – one that you really desire and will properly prepare to ensure winning.
Start again right now, make a comment and keep us informed of your progress and share how you achieved your royal flush.
To your success.
Big Picture For New Year’s Resolutions To Work
December 29, 2009 by John · Leave a Comment
The reason a lot of New Year’s resolutions don’t last much beyond a week or a few days, is because they do not connect to a “bigger picture” . Usually they are just one “nice to do” type empty promises. You know, things I “should do”, like, give up smoking, lose 20 kg, go to a gym, etc. etc. If they are not part of a bigger picture or “Vision” we have for our lives, then there is no motivation to follow through. You need a roadmap for your life.
Whoops, I think I took the wrong road. I turn left, right?
Where is your road map to your destiny in life taking you?
Take some time to seriously identify what really matters most in your life and what you really want to be and do. To really begin your journey with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. It means to know where you’re going so you better understand where you are now so that the steps you take are always in the right direction.
Find your passion. What do you care about most? Allow your passion to take more priority in life.
Follow the big picture of your life. Allocate your time more efficiently and don’t waste time on things that aren’t important to the big picture.
Spell out to yourself a dream version of your passion. How does it feel? What does it look like? Where would it take you?
Get a move on. Don’t wait until a better time to move toward what you want. There is no better time. The time is now.
Stay open to changes. Just because things aren’t going exactly to plan doesn’t mean they are not in alignment. Trust the process.
Focus on the big picture or Vision for your life and continually check in with yourself and ask “Is what I am doing right now taking me closer to my life’s vision / goal?” If the answer is “No’ then do something else.
Good luck.
Attitude
December 28, 2009 by Peter · Leave a Comment
The longer I live, the more I realise the impact of attitude in life. It is more important than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than whatever anyone might say and do.
It is more important than appearances, giftedness and skill. The remarkable thing is that we have the choice to create the attitude we have for that day.
We cannot change the past. We cannot change the way people act. We cannot change the inevitable. The one thing we can change is the only thing we have control over and that is our attitude.
I’m convinced that life is 10% what actually happens to us and 90% how we react to it.
Charles Swindall
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